Is It Self-Care or Self-Sabotage?

Do you ever wonder if some of your coping strategies could be hurting more than they are helping? You might wonder - when is something effective when it comes to coping, and when does it turn to a form of avoidance? Read on to learn about some “tells” for when your self-care might be drifting into self-sabotage.

1. Ignoring Your Emotions

If your self-care is serving you primarily by allowing you to avoid difficult feelings, you may want to reconsider it. Avoiding your feelings may provide temporary relief, but it prevents true healing and resolution. Check in with what emotions you may be avoiding and why they are showing up.

2. Procrastination

Sometimes we use self-care to avoid doing the things we need to do. Putting off tasks or responsibilities only adds to your stress and anxiety in the long run. Definitely take breaks as needed, and break tasks into smaller, manageable steps and tackle them one at a time.

3. Social Isolation

While it’s absolutely okay to take care of yourself If you need a break from social events, if you notice yourself continuing to say no, this might be an area to look at. Retreating from social interactions can intensify feelings of loneliness and exacerbate mental health struggles.

4. Substance Abuse:

Ever feel tired or frustrated and turn to a glass of wine to turn down the volume? While understandable, this might play into self-sabotage if it's preventing you from engaging in other valued activities.

5. Avoiding Challenges

Like social events, assess what you can handle and say no when needed. However, if you notice you haven’t taken up a challenge recently, you may be avoiding. Stepping outside your comfort zone is essential for personal growth, learning, and development.

As you can see, the line between self-care and self-sabotage can feel blurry. Remember - true self-care uplifts and empowers you, while self-sabotage often leans into avoidance and holds you back. Take some time to notice which of these you tend toward, and make a commitment this week to notice where these show up.